Moment of comeback

            Humans, as long as they live they will face many kinds of events, whether it’s good or bad, a progress or a regress . Just like yin and yang, this world where we live has balance in all things. I want to tell you the moment when I made a  “comeback” from my sorrow and rose up to be a “better me”.

            When i was an elementary student, most of my friends were friendly and very cheerful, yet sometimes they were annoying , they like to mock if i do something wrong or got a bad score. Usually the way they mock was like repeating my name and keep saying my score with monotone voices. Because I was still a kid, sometimes I cried and told my mom about it, but my mom always told me : “if you do the same thing like them,you are not better than them.” That sentence always came up in my mind everytime I want to hit and punch the mockers. “Mockers and bully, why do they even exist?” i asked this question to myself.

            It said that life as a junior highschool student is usually full with delight and happiness. I think that rule was inappropriate for me. At first,nothing bad happened on my first year in junior highschool but then, on my second year on junior highschool. That misery started and surprisingly the guy who was the bully’s boss is my “best friend”. Let me tell you about what happened before this guy became my first enemy on school.

            Am I allowed to put his full name on this post? I don’t really care though if he reads this , His nickname is Thody, our first meeting was when I was on 5^th grade on elementary school, he played basketball a lot with me, almost every afternoon until evening. He was a really an interesting person, he taught me about sports and how to use social media, as I remember he made me account for Facebook and Yahoo. I had a good relationship with his family too.I know his family background, his father is from Medan and his father’s clan is Batak, and his mother is from Manado , and his mother's clan is Minahasa . Nothing bad happened at first, since he was a really good person, but I felt something that made me uncomfortable. He always copied my homework, he talked dirty words almost everytime (except in front of his parents of course~) , he also asked the answers on every exam. He said its for the feedback for his kindness. So he did the whole thing for purpose.

            As soon as I rejected his question of exam’s answer, his behavior turned 180 degress on me ONLY. He bullied me all the time since that day, he also invited his gank to bully me, so he wasn’t alone. They liked to write my name on the whiteboard then put a dirty word in the end of my name and mock my friend’s name which i had crush to and they match me with the girl I don’t like. And of course, they were being racist too.

            I was on the lowest and deepest sorrow of my life, nobody cared about me even my close friends, since they were being threatened by the bully. If my friends help me, they would beat me up when the class was over and spread rumor that i did bad things like fighting each other (juvenile delinquency)  and told everyone that i had dropped out from school.Well, I was almost tired to handle their bully. My family never stop to supported me and gave me advices.

             It was the day of National Exam, that was the final showdown for me to prove them. I don’t need parasite kind of friends like them. Yeah, God is not dead he is surely alive. I got the highest score in my class and beat all the bullies who thought i was lazy and idiot. Some of them moved to other school, since they didn’t pass the exam and some of them were put on different class. I was glad that i can overcome this problem and since that time i became more carefull to make friends. In the future, i know that i can’t avoid this kind of people, but i know how to handle them now. Haters gonna hate and their bully doesn’t make me down but make me become a better person.

My Second Journal

                 I think i must move on from my mistakes in writing before. I made many mistakes in grammar and I used words that’s not effective,hard to understand, and label a person without reason. I have learned a lot from this class about grammar,sentence and punctuation, yet I still made mistakes about it.

                Obviously I still have to work on to revise my grammar, my sentence (usually I make only a clause not a sentence) and this small detail, punctuation. One of my mistakes about punctuation is I used singular form on plural (I wrote sibling’s instead of siblings’) I didn’t realize that I made this small detail mistakes but very crucial.

                I used what I have learned in other context usually when I’m chatting with my foreign friends that’s not native English speakers, sometimes when they made mistakes I corrected them directly and spontaneously haha. And now my friends keep calling me “Mr.Corrector” but I know it’s just a joke and they’re actually  happy because I care about them.

                Midterms is on its way! Prepare everything before it arrives in front of us. I need to study and later write accurately in grammar and vocabulary that I use. Furthermore, I will read some of my friends blog to increase my vocabulary ,and study about the type of text like descriptive,narrative,procedure and recount text like when I was in Senior High School. Last thing before I finish this Journal, I hope God bless me and all of my friends so we can pass this exam and get an amazing score.

"Your choice now determine what will happen to you afterwards"

People who have socialized with me

       Many people have socialized with me since I was child, including my family and friends. Many kinds of people with their unique personality like introvert, extrovert, cheerful, short-tempered, easy-going and uptight person who usually close themselves against strangers.

               
       I have a big family. The family from my mother and my father have different culture and different routines. Let’s say my family from my mother, most of them are born on West Java, just like my mom. She was born in Indramayu, she was the youngest child of 4^th sisters, yeah all of my mom’s siblings are females and they are half sundanese and half chinese, because my grandmother is sundanese and my grandfather is chinese. Unfortunately both of them had passed away since my mom was still 6 years old. My mom and her siblings are taught to be tough women since they were child because they had to do all things by themselves, like studying, working and earning money ,washing dishes and clothes, also shopping for daily needs. Since I was child my mom usually brought me to their house to help her siblings' work and all of them loved me because I was a good and obedient boy. Now all of them live in Bandung,West Java. I haven’t visited them for 3 years and I really miss them so much.

               
        I live in Surabaya because my mom met my dad here. They are pen friends since they were teenager. So that’s why I live here at Surabaya. My father’s family is a very big one because my grandmother has given birth of 6 children, 2 of their childern are females and 4 are males. My father is also the youngest among them all, just like my mom. My father family’s background is pure chinese and cantonese. My grandmother is from China and my grandfather is from Hongkong. They used to wear cheongsam (for women) and changsan (for men) but not anymore. Both of them migrated from their nation to Indonesia in 1970 and decided to married and lived in Probolinggo for a long time, after about 10 years, they decided to moved to Surabaya from 1980 until now. All of my father siblings' have their own personalities, like my eldest uncle is humble and wise, my eldest aunt is very cheerful, my second uncle is humorous , my youngest aunt is a calm person. However, my youngest uncle is  an arrogant person because he always shows off his wealth and money, but never help other siblings when they are short in cash. And the last, my father was a short-tempered person then, now he is a patient and indulgent person. He has changed his personality since he became a church-goer . I think that’s a little story about my family.

               
        At school, I got a lot of friends because of it, including true and fake friends. My kindergarten friends were very friendly and cheerful just like me, but unfortunately I’ve forgotten them all. On elementary school, I had a lot of friends who liked sports and drawing. Surprisingly I met one of my elementary friends who now studies on the same university and same department, his name is Jeffrey Jaya. I had a bad experience though when I was in junior high school a gank of bad boys was formed and bully me, they like to make me feel hopeless and make me want to quit school, but my buddies and my parents always supported me and caught me when I fall. I have proved to the bully gank  that I passed my National Exam and got an excellent score. Right in their face!  I think that’s better than I'm fighting them and reacting to their mocking. In Senior High School I didn’t have many problems beside math subjects, Yeah, math is a terrifying ghost to people who don’t like to count and understand  complicated things. I always forgot the formulas and my teacher sometimes scolded me because I couldn't answer her questions. But in the end I could pass the tryout exams ,school exams, and the national exams. And of course the best score on my report was English subject , that’s why I chose English department for my study at university. Finally, everyone who have socialized with me , bad and good people, have their own role in my life, such as my mom who catch me when i fall and the bully who made me tougher and wiser now. I believe it's God's plan to take me into higher level in my life :) .